Episode 23: Coping with the Emotional Distress of Dissolving Relationships

Dissolving or changing the dynamics of certain relationships in your life is not always easy, and it can be a challenge coping with it emotionally.  I’m currently in the process of dissolving some very close relationships that I have had for many years, so I know exactly what you may be going through.

The process I’m going through is what inspired me to talk about relationships as a topic for this podcast episode, and it is my intention that this episode assists you with the challenges you may be experiencing when it comes to dissolving current relationships that you know are not healthy for you.

Episode Highlights:

• Processing and recognizing the need to dissolve certain relationships
• Being courageous enough to end or shift relationships
• When the purpose of a relationship has been fulfilled
• Spiritual/soul contracts
• Being honest and having open communication
• Blessing the person and the situation with love
• Doing the continual energy work
• Showing up unapologetically as you are
• Own your gifts
• Being protective of your energy
• Making sure core relationships are healthy and nourishing
• Self-care, self-love, self-compassion
• Get in the ebb and flow
• Not all relationships are meant to be lifetime relationships
• All relationships teach you something
• The aspect of you that asks for the opportunity for transcendence
• How we indirectly participate in our own emotional discomfort
• Being present
• Spiritually gifted community

Transcription: (Click Here to Download a PDF Copy of This Transcription)

I harmonize in order to survive, modeling instinct. I seal the store of life force with the galactic tone of integrity. I am guided by the power of universal water.

Welcome to Episode 23 of The Cosmic Celebrity Podcast here at athenalucene.com. On this episode, we’re going to be talking about how to cope with the emotional distress of dissolving various relationships in your life. And a lot of time when I do my podcast, I get various inspiration from different … you know, sometimes, a lot of times it’s from personal experience, so it’s directly from my heart, but then there’s also inspiration that comes from others who have shared their personal experiences with me so courageously.

It’s not a mystery as to why so many relationships right now … as I personally am in the process of dissolving multiple relationships in my life. You know the persons who are in my life – my spiritual family, as well as just clients, just other persons who are also vibrationally at the same place where they’re also changing the dynamics of relationships and dissolving relationships as well. And so, you know, the energy today … everything aligned synchronistically for this podcast to be about really how to cope with the emotional distress, because it’s not easy.

Spiritually gifted or not it’s not easy to, number one, process through and recognize the need to dissolve certain relationships and deciphering through which ones need to be dissolved versus which ones need to just … the dynamics just needs to be changed, just shifted, just a little bit so that it’s fulfilling and nourishing.

So before I get into all that, you know, I just wanted to share with you where the energy and the inspiration for today’s podcast came from or is flowing from.

So, on this episode not only are we going to be discussing that, but, you know, as always you’re going to also receive divine intuitive downloads that’s going to naturally realign you to your natural frequency, your soul’s frequency, to your unique energetic imprint. And the more you do that and the more you integrate that and live your truth and speak your truth and stand in the power of your truth, well, you’re embodying and embracing and exemplifying your cosmic celebrity.

Have Courage

So, as I was sharing with you before, dissolving relationship is not always easy, and specifically for a spiritually gifted persons because we have the ability, through our giftedness, to see an expanded radial viewpoint of the situation. You know, we may not always be able to see ourselves specifically clearly, as clear as we would like to; however, we’re able to have an array, a depth of information that flows to us about the situation and specifically when a relationship no longer works – even if it’s a relationship with a parent who is not honoring of you and who you truly are, and they’re kind of like stuck and keep holding onto who they want you to be, right? It could be any relationship.

As you grow spiritually, the challenge in the ascension and the elevation of your consciousness and your maturity is are you courageous enough to recognize and process through the relationships and make a determination and allow the spiritual insights to guide you in the knowing of what actions need to be taken and what relationships specifically needs to be dissolved versus, you know, the ones that doesn’t necessarily need to dissolved, but the ones that needs, you know, just a shift in the dynamic and exactly what that shift should be.

So, number one I would say is to … I hinted at it already when I said have courage. You have to have courage and you have to have absolute trust that all is well, and everything is unfolding and evolving in not just your highest and greatest good, but everyone’s highest and greatest good for everyone that’s concerned. The universe is abundant and just remarkable in that way, in the orchestration, you know, in whatever language you prefer to describe this divine essence – whether it’s The Universe … whatever … Source Energy, The Creator, you know it’s all the same divine essence.

At some point in your consciousness, in your growth, your spiritual growth, you’ll get to understand that it’s not about the name or the language that you use to describe this divine essence, it’s more so the essence; the essence of love, and joy, and comfort, and well-being, and passion, and optimal health, and so on and so forth – you know, what we call so called “positive emotions.”

So, as you grow, it’s going to take courage to grow, because when you grow, you’re at a new place, you’re always at a new place, an unfamiliar place, a place that you have not explore spiritually, right? And a lot of times, you know, it takes assistance in the processing of … It takes deliberate processing, deliberate willingness to be present with your life and with the relationships.

Reflect on the Purpose of Your Relationships

And, you know, when you get to a certain level you just get in your … it becomes a new normal to constantly be reflective of all the relationships and the insights they bring and the aha moments. It’s like your soul expands and you become more open to the aha moments like, “Oh my goodness.” Like, it could be a “good Samaritan” who helped you when you were a child, when you were a kid.

I mean, I remember … I grew up in a … for the most part, a single parent household, and even though I had a stepfather, the reason I say single parent household is because my stepfather and I never really connected until later on, like closer to when I graduated from high school and then became an adult. That’s like more when we started to connect and kind of get along better.

I always had persons who looked out for me. I played sports and there was always that coach, or that assistant coach, or that team member’s parents who always looked out for me or said encouraging things to me.

And so they imprinted on my soul, and in a positive way where even though they may have just thought they were just being kind in the moment, but it just meant so much, it was just such a more profound reasoning, it gave a profound reasoning to my experience. It was a defining moment that helped me in my development more than they knew.

I’m saying all this because it’s like when it comes to a time when you start reflecting on your relationships and the purpose that they’ve served, you get to understand when the purpose is fulfilled and you get to understand when the purpose has not been fulfilled, or that is kind of like are you going to renew that spiritual contract. Because, before you came to the physical plane, or this third dimensional construct, you know on the soul level, like, there’s all these agreements going on and then you come here and then it’s like, you know, people don’t lose their way, but persons don’t ascend as quickly or accelerate as quickly as you do in their growth, and so the contract is no longer mutually beneficial – it doesn’t provide that soul nourishment and fulfillment and regeneration that the original intent was in place for.

So, in those instances you then need to make a decision, a personal decision, on how you’re going to change the dynamics of those relationships. Actually, the way that the energy is flowing … the more that I’m talking about, you know, this stuff I think that I should definitely cover a podcast on soul contracts and exactly what that entails. And I just explained what a soul contract is; however, there’s so much more to be said when it comes to soul contracts because there’s so many contracts and agreements.

Have Open Communication

But, you know, just to be respectful of the space that we’ve committed for our podcast for today to cover dissolving relationships and how to cope with it, going back to the courage, having the courage to do the spiritual work to being honest and having communication with the persons that you’re involved in the relationships with – which that’s number two: having open communication if you can.

A lot of times if someone is not at this same level of consciousness as you are, or the same vibrational frequency, if you two are on two opposite side of the spectrum, vibrationally it’s going be very difficult to have a open-hearted, expanded, loving, conscious conversation, and that’s what’s specifically so difficult. So, a lot of times the communication is silence and really just blessing the person with love, blessing yourself with love, blessing the situation with love, and through your deeper understanding and spiritual insight of the situation, the expanded version of yourself. Sometimes that’s the best thing you can do and take the steps to dissolve the relationship.

It may be following through with that divorce; it may be breaking up with a boyfriend or a girlfriend; it may be not giving that friend, that person who’s been a friend for you for so long, access to you. So, it’s continually energy work. It’s doing the continual energy work so that you can stay clear on what purpose each relationship is serving in your life and if it’s no longer nourishing and if it no longer serves your growth.

The Ultimate Contract is to Your Soul

It comes back to the contracts, what I mentioned about the contracts, where your ultimate contract is to yourself and to your own soul to fulfill your own purpose, to fulfill and live your own truth. And when you can bear that in mind, you know, that ultimately that’s the ultimate contract.

The ultimate commitment is to you and your soul and your integration with your soul and your aliveness and the expressions and the beautiful fulfillment of your own life and your own personal growth and embracing and discovering your abilities and your gifts and really showing up and unapologetically and shamelessly as you are – not diminished or feeling as if persons don’t get you or your crazy or, you know, in that type of energy.

You got to really show up in an energy where you own your abilities, you own your gifts and you see them as very special gifts. And with the special gifts comes special requirements, and the special requirements often times are the relationships and the connections and the way that they’re prioritized in your life. This is essentially vital for spiritually gifted persons, because as spiritually gifted persons, you are very special.

And spirit is actually, you know, interjecting and saying and emphasizing, you are special, right?

But then also the thought that I was flowing with is that you especially require … Because you are sensitive to energy, you are required to be protective of your energy, and really be mindful that the relationships that you have – especially your core relationships, the ones in your inner circle – to make sure that those are healthy and that the other person, if they are not even at the same place in the journey as you, that they’re close enough, and that the relationship is nourishing, and that the relationship serves you, and that this other individual is also committed to their spiritual growth. Even if they’re not spiritually gifted, just that they’re interested and commitment to their own personal development, and that they’re always interested in ways that they can discover more about themselves and about the world and about people and how they can just always add to the improvement of themselves.

So, it is very important for you to cultivate this around you so that you are always feeling nourished and always feeling fulfilled and recharged and regenerated. This is key.

As a spiritually gifted person if there’s someone that doesn’t understand your ability and they’re constantly telling you that you’re crazy, in their misunderstanding, telling you that you’re crazy, telling you that there’s something wrong with you, telling you that you’re weird but, you know, in a negative way, you know, using the word weird with a negative connotation, after a while this is going to affect your psychology, this is going to affect your emotional well-being.

A lot of times this is going to affect anyone, spiritually gifted or not, but particularly as a spiritually gifted person, it is very important to nourish yourself with self-care. It is very important to nourish yourself with self-love, self-compassion, and part of that is making sure that your relationships, ALL your relationships, are nourishing to you.

Allowing the Ebb and Flow

I would also say, allow the intuitive flow. You cause your own pain … I shouldn’t say you cause your own pain, I don’t like that energetically, but it’s as if you welcome the invitation of pain, emotional pain and discomfort, when you’re not willing to allow the ebb and flow of relationships throughout your lifetime.

Just accept from the beginning … just accept with a clear understanding from the start that relationships are not all meant to be lifetime relationships. You’ve heard it being stated to you in the way of some people come into your life for a season and then some come for a lifetime, however that adage goes, whatever it is, but it’s like this is a deeper layer behind that. This is a deeper explanation behind that. And you’ve got to get in the habit of allowing the ebb and flow of relationships – not just relationships, but because we’re specifically talking about relationships on this episode, get in that ebb and flow.

Like understand that some people come, but everyone comes to teach you something, everyone comes to add to your purpose. Even the persons who bring you discomfort or disappointment, they’re teaching you something, they’re mirroring something for you to you and it’s for you to get the spiritual insights, a deeper insight so that you can improve, because on some level you’ve asked for that.

If someone is very loving and caring towards you, you’ve asked for that, and so the universe is responding by allowing someone who is open and receptive and is of the same vibrational frequency to show you, to express that love and care that you’re desiring and that you’re asking for.

And it’s the same thing, there’s another aspect of you that’s needing to be strengthened and developed and molded more. That aspect of you is also asking for the persons that will come to you and show “disappointing behavior” or “behavior that’s not pleasing to you” like if someone is rude to you, or if someone cheats you out of money or something like that. There’s an aspect of you that is asking for you.

So, there’s all these aspects of you that’s always asking for expressions and demonstrations and manifestations of the vibrational transcendence, right, the opportunity for transcendence. So, it’s just all about knowing that these relationships are not all meant to be permanent.

I think if you understand that early on … and for me personally, if I had understood this way sooner it would have helped me to manage a lot of the emotional discomforts that I experienced as a spiritually gifted person. Because in my mind I’m like, “All I have to do is love deeper. All I have to do is fix myself a little bit more.”

“Fix” myself, right?

So … and it didn’t even occur to me that, okay, this relationship has served its time and has served its purpose, right, but I’m holding onto it, I’m in resistance to healthy change. I’m in resistance because now I’m another person, I’m a different person. That other person is another person, you know, and as the years have went by, we’ve become, we’ve grown into more of whatever we need to be, right? So … Just to complement the collective evolutionary journey, right?

And so, as spiritually gifted persons we tend to do that; we tend to hold onto people and things longer than we need to, which leads to the direct consequence of our own emotional discomfort. So, we actually participate in our own emotional discomforts.

So, I would just say be more present with yourself, be more present with your life, allow the spiritual insights to flow to you. And with the spiritual insights, get the information that you need to make the changes, some radical and some are more radical than others, but the bottom line is that you take the right precise action with the information so that your life can work better for you, so that your life can flow, so that you can experience the fulfillment and the well-being that you so desire and that you so deserve.

Becoming a Part of a Community of Other Spiritually Gifted Individuals

So, I would absolutely say to do that, and if you want more information on how you can become a part of the community where … you know with other spiritually gifted persons who are also committed to their personal growth, the understanding of their gifts, kind of like just having the sense of connection in that special and unique way …

I think being around other spiritually gifted persons are one the best kind of soul-nourishing kind of things that can happen because … I know for me specifically, because a lot of times as a spiritually gifted person you can tend to feel so alone, and when there’s even one or two other persons that you can connect with who are also spiritually gifted, who are also very ascended in their consciousness, it feels so soul nourishing. It feels so familiar. It feels like home, it just flows.

There’s just this divine flow and a sense of all-rightness, a sense of “I understand you,” and it’s nice when that’s reflected back to you and then it’s nice when conversations can happen and occur where you can exchange … you know … just kind of have this spiritually synergy where you just talk about your own personal experiences and your own journey and the aha moments as it specifically applies to spiritual giftedness and the diversity of your abilities.

So, if you’re interested in more about that, I was actually guided to create a program called Blossoming The Inner Spirit, and it’s a self-paced, digital online group coaching program.

So there’s a group aspect where there’s weekly live group coaching where you’ll get a chance to ask me any questions you may have about your journey and about your unique situation, you know, and then you can get coached through that, right, moving beyond the emotional blocks and all the distresses you may be experiencing as it pertains to your spiritually giftedness and how the challenges of integrating your giftedness into day-to-day life, so that you can experience more comfort and ease and kind of get to that place of self-acceptance, right?

And then of course there’s a self-paced aspect to the program where you can go through the modules on various topics, so that you can, you know, kind of like begin to develop the language so that … you know your brain … so that you can start framing the experience and you having a conceptual understanding of what’s happening to you and get the language and get like the new framework so that, you know, you can start taking the steps towards your emotional freedom.

So if that speaks to you and if that’s something that resonates with you and if that’s a place where you are at in your journey, go to athenalucene.com, go to “Programs” and scroll down to Blossoming The Inner Spirit, go ahead and click “Get more information,” and go ahead and sign-up for that wait list and that will be coming in the very near future.

In the meantime, this is just a wonderful time to be alive where we can express our spiritual giftedness and, you know, how we will be received is completely up to us and the remembrance and the wonderful knowledge that we now have in this time. You know, this is a beautiful time to be alive, the best time to be alive and be a spiritually gifted person because you’re not persecuted, you’re not burnt to the stake.

This is a different era, this is a different time where you can allow yourself to be more expressive, and you can allow yourself to just be who you are and live your truth.

So, no more shaming your abilities, no more judging your abilities negatively. This work is very special to me and very near to my heart, and it’s just so fulfilling and so even nourishing for me to even have a platform where I can, you know, offer that to other persons who are spiritually gifted who are struggling, you know, in the areas where I used to struggle.

So, my name is Athena Lucene, and I came to this earth planetary construct as a galactic beacon of expanded love and light consciousness. I’m here to guide you through the sharing of my personal experience, as well as sharing the spiritual insights, divine spiritual insights, that will assist you in your cosmic evolution, your growth, and your development as a spiritually gifted person. It’s my absolute joy to support you on your journey of cosmic galactic remembrance, and to serve you in this capacity.

I look forward to receiving your comments and replying as well to your comments. As always, share this podcast in the spirit of love.

There could be someone out there who is struggling with their abilities who are needing to have the information, so do share it in the spirit of love.

And that’s it for now. Abundant blessings and blissful moments.