You are not here to people please and suppress your feelings in order to appease everyone. You are not here to get validation and approval from others. You are not here to continue saying “yes” to doing things for someone to please them when you really want to say “no.” You simply cannot win at this game of life when you try to live for other persons.
You are here to live your truth, carry out your divine mission, and honor your inner spirit… and on this episode, I share insights with you on exactly how to do that.
- Checking in with yourself before making a commitment
- Letting go of trying to people please
- Being mindful of when you put others before yourself
- Honoring your feelings when around other persons
- The #1 reason why you’re experiencing emotional roller coasters
- Overcoming soul betrayal
- Staying connected with your inner spirit and honoring your soul calling
- Your first purpose explained
- How to lovingly bend reality in your favor
- How to make yourself the first priority and really get to know yourself
- Releasing the mental clutter
- Radiating the energy of self-worth
- Stop crippling your emotional freedom
- Living a soul nourishing life and enjoying your own bliss
- Being selective about who you share your energy with
- What to do after you finish listening to this podcast episode
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I harmonize in order to survive modeling instinct. I seal the store of life force with the galactic tone of integrity. I am guided by the power of universal water.
Welcome to episode 32 of the Cosmic Celebrity Podcast, here at athenalucene.com. On this episode, I’ll be sharing three reasons with you why you can’t win living for others.
You’ll also receive energetic intuitive downloads that will also assist to realign you with your natural spark, the essence that’s within you that is a natural, unique spark of the divine essence. So, you will receive downloads and intuitive energy healing that will align you with that natural frequency, that natural essence that is you as the unique spark of The Divine.
And the more that you exercise your integration and grow spiritually and embrace who you are, and unapologetically live your truth, you know, whatever that may be, and honor your soul purpose and your destiny – your soul assignment for coming to this planet, this third dimensional construct – I call that being a cosmic celebrity because you are a cosmic celebrity. And it’s for you to awaken more and more to that understanding, so let’s get right to it.
Reason #1: You’re Betraying Your Own Soul
The first reason you can’t win living for others is because … First of all, I think it’s important that we get clear when I say living for others. So, are you putting other people before you? Are you just in so much servitude? In so much giving of yourself to others, whether it’s friends, family, children, parents – well, parents fall under family, but I think you get the gist what I mean – your coworkers, your colleagues, your supervisor, your boss at work, your pastor, whoever it is? And I say that word pastor lightly, and I think some of you all will know why.
But essentially, if you’re putting other people before you… like… you know… if you’re agreeing to help others out without really checking in with yourself to see if it’s truly aligned, and if you’re truly in a place where you can help, whether it’s giving your time, gifting your time, gifting your assistance in other ways, are you checking in to make sure that number one, that you can do that or fulfill that obligation, or that commitment without stretching yourself too thin?
Also, are you checking in to see if you feel light around the situation? Do you feel anxiety? Do you feel worry? Do you feel concern about assisting in a certain way or honoring something that someone is asking of you?
Do you feel those kind of lower dense emotions and still agree to do it? Or do you feel light? Do you feel happy around it? Do you know for certain that you have the space and time availability to commit to that request or whatever the service?
And some of you… some of you I know offer… Many of you offer yourselves to other persons – your services, your time, your help –knowing, even finances, knowing that you’re really not in the position where it’s congruent for you to be able to gift your time, or your money, or your services to anyone or to that person in the situation.
So sometimes it gets tricky because I know a lot of you, you actually volunteer, and it’s kind of like an emotional feedback loop, where it’s like you’re trying to people please and you’re trying to get the approval of others.
Now every time you offer, you know, to be helpful to someone, does it mean that you’re trying to psychologically warp them into approving of you and liking you? No, not necessarily. But be careful, and I want you to be mindful that when you are agreeing to help others or put others first in a situation, that it is truly something that you’re able to do without bringing any kind of negative repercussions to you. So, it could be anything from … or it could be doing things the way that persons, or your family, or your spouse, coworkers, just doing things in a way that makes them feel comfortable.
This is really a big one with family members, spouses, friends, persons that know you more intimately I would say, than coworkers. But another example of living for others is when you don’t really push the buttons too much. You don’t say what you have to say. You suppress what you have to say, and your goal is to just make sure everyone around you is feeling comfortable – you’re not pushing the envelope too much.
And that sounds nice, and it sounds harmonious. The problem with that is that you’re suppressing your own feelings. You’re not honoring your own feelings. And so, it’s a form of just not loving yourself and honoring yourself and how you feel.
So I think we have a couple of examples, so I think you are all clear with what I mean by why you can’t win by living for others. So, it’s essentially putting other people first.
Now, I know some of you will have a really hard time with this. But I promise you, putting people before you is one of the main reasons why you’re having emotional imbalances, why you’re having emotional roller coasters, why you’re not having the sense of consistency with a more congruent emotional and psychologically healthy and balanced energy pattern, so that of calm and peace and clarity, focus and congruency.
So, the first reason why you can’t win putting others before you is because the most fundamental reason is because, well, it’s soul betrayal. You’re betraying your own soul. You are not honoring your inner essence. You’re not honoring what’s true for you based on your past lives, based on your life experiences in your current life. You are not honoring the truth of just what is true for you, what feels good for you based on what your destiny and your purpose is.
And I know a lot of you, some of you may not know what your destiny and your purpose is, and even if you don’t quite know what it is, you know when you feel discomfort in your body. You know when you are doing things or saying things that is not aligned with who you truly are, your inner being, your inner spirit, your sense of your own self-worth, your sense of dignity.
You all know this. A lot of you who are in narcissistic relationships or other kind of toxic relationships, you know exactly what I’m talking about. You may not have the language for it. You may not always necessarily be able to describe it because you’re in such an emotional chaotic state of mind and state of existence that you don’t really even have the clarity towards being clear about your own emotions, and processing them amongst another person, who has very unhealthy emotions, who may be toxic and dysfunctional.
So, I would say soul betrayal, that’s a big one. Any time you are betraying your soul, any time you’re not living your purpose, any time you’re saying, “yes” when the answer should be “no,” when you know the answer is no. Any time that you are being disingenuine to your own self. Any time you act, speak, or do certain things, or go certain places, that you know that you’re really… you’re not feeling that vibe, but you still do it anyway, because you’re trying to live for other people. You’re trying to put other persons first. You’re trying to just appease everyone.
And that’s leads us right into reason number two why you will never win. And before we go to number two, I just want to say, when you do not honor your soul calling, and when you do not honor your soul, and you essentially betray your soul, you’ll never have true happiness. You’ll never have that sense of peace of mind, and you will never have the sense of effortless ease-ness that you’re meant to have as you’re living – that sense of wonder, and magic, and bliss, as you live your life experiences.
Even when there are times that things happen that are not preferred, that may be really challenging times for you, when you are really connected with who you are and honoring your inner spirit, and being true to you, all those experiences – life challenges, everything – you’re able to stay centered in them. And you actually endure, and you actually are able to see a bigger, more expanded picture. You’re able to have strength and courage, and you’re actually able to be very inspirational to others in times, hard times, when you are really connected with your inner spirit and living your truth and putting yourself first.
Reason #2: You Will Never Please Everyone
So, the second reason why you can’t win when you’re living for others and not putting yourself first is because you’ll never be able to please everyone. I promise you all those persons that you are trying to please, all those persons where you’re trying to get approval and validation and compliments from, I promise you those moments of approval and the sense that, “oh, that person likes me,” that is short lived. It’s only momentary. It’s giving you a sense of false security, because you cannot please everyone.
I promise you everyone here is on a different soul journey, different soul path. Everyone has different emotional issues they’re working with, working on, different psychological issues, different destinies, different purposes. And a lot of times, there’s so many different contrasts, variances, variations of contrast, that it’s inevitable that you’ll never find someone that will agree with you 100% on everything. It’s because everyone is their own individual, and you will absolutely never be able to please everyone, so why not start focusing on you and loving yourself more?
And I don’t mean that in a very … I think when persons hear love yourself more, persons just sounds so cliché. But loving yourself more, you know, is really what your first purpose is – because there’s many purposes that you will have in your life. But loving yourself more and growing deeper and deeper in love with yourself, your own essence, your own energy, that is one of your main purposes, because there are many.
And when you really get into yourself, really are willing just to grow so deeply in love with yourself, and love every aspect about yourself, you will find that you will become the first priority to you. And in doing that, you become more clear on who you truly are.
Like, who are you at your core? That will become so evident. And even if you don’t realize it, you will start acting, speaking and doing things just completely different, in a more confident way, in a more self-assured way, and in a way that will actually now all of a sudden, instead of you trying to please everyone, you will find that your reality will begin to be more bending towards you. Your reality, your universe will then align to the frequency of self-love that you have and self-worth that you’re radiating.
So, persons will be checking on you. Persons will be asking you, “How do you feel?” You will increase your value because you’ve increased your own self-worth through self-love. And so now instead of you trying to people please everyone, and driving yourself crazy, the confusion of one second, “Well, I thought that person liked me,” and then the next day they interacted with you not as satisfactory that you expected based on the last interaction. So now all of a sudden, you’re wondering if the person even likes you.
I mean, that’s such worthless mental clutter. And when you have your mind cluttered like that, how do you manifest things? How can you be clear to your own life? How can you even begin to have true emotional freedom when your mind is full of so much mental clutter about the interaction that you’re having throughout your day, you know, just replaying those over and over and over again?
So the bottom line is, you’ll never be able to please everyone, so stop trying. Start putting yourself first and pleasing yourself first – and I don’t mean that in an egotistical way.
Please yourself first, honor your own inner spirit first. And from there, others will recognize the self-worth that you’re radiating, and they will more so respect you more. And, you know, they will not be looking for you to try to be pleasing them anymore.
In fact, they’ll be wondering, “Well, what’s up with you?” Why aren’t you trying to bend over backwards to please them and try to get their validation and try to get their compliments and all this?
I promise you, you will become a magnet. And they will now start trying to please you and trying to figure out this new energy that you’re radiating. They’ll be like, “Something is different,” but they won’t really know why. But you can just smile to yourself because you’ll know why because you’ve decided that you’re going to put yourself first and stop trying to please everyone, because you know you can’t win trying to please everyone.
Reason #3: You Are Crippling Your Emotional Freedom and Happiness
So the third reason why you can’t win living for others is because it’s kind of like an addition to reason number two. Right? So, it’s because it cripples your own emotional freedom, happiness, and fulfillment.
So, let’s take it a step further. So, you are not here, you are not here to be validated, loved, and approved by other people. You are here to carry out your divine mission, whatever that is for you. You get to define it. You get to define it, you and your inner spirit.
You are the team. Your inner spirit is your ace. And you’re not here to be stuck in all this emotional bondage and trying to figure out who likes you and who doesn’t like you. Trying to figure out, well, what’s going to be next, and all this confusion, chaos, mental clutter, like I said before.
You’re meant to really be clear about the truly, truly profound soul nourishing life that you are meant to experience. The enriching experiences, whatever that is for you. It is different for everyone, and it is absolutely okay and allowed to be different for everyone. Okay?
So, you are here. You know, it’s like variety is The Creator’s spice of life, The Creator’s spice of expressions. So, that is why there is no soul that is exactly the same as the other. Right?
The Creator loves to express through itself in many various expressions, many various forms of life, and just uplifting levity and expansion. So ultimately, you’re here to really enjoy your own bliss. Right? Enjoy your own bliss, whatever that is for you.
And you cannot get clear to what your own bliss is, and the essence and the power of your own inner magic if you’re busy trying to live for other people when you’re meant to be really understanding yourself, studying yourself, becoming intimate with yourself, becoming developed and understanding you are a spiritually gifted wonder that’s meant to just do great things and just have just a remarkable and fantastic life experience, and meant to really feel and sense and know the consciousness that is within us, within you, and all around you.
So, that’s the kind of awareness that brings true divine fulfillment and happiness. So, you know, if you are too busy putting other people before you… You could be studying, you could be journaling, you could be doing your inner work so that you can become aware of your own emotional energetic patterns that’s no longer serving you. You can be so present with your own growth, so present with your own expansion, that just that alone is so delicious and delightful.
It comes to a point where if you’re not going to be sharing your energy with other persons who are also on the same path, who are also as awakened, who are also as excited about their life and their transformation through their spiritual growth, it’s like you become so selective about who you’re sharing your energy with and where you’re going, because really, you start getting to a level where your own energy becomes so fulfilling and magnetic that it’s really all you need.
Everyone else’s energy that is aligned with yours, of like frequency, is just adding to the bliss and the peace and the happiness and the joy that you’re already experiencing. So, stop crippling your emotional freedom, your happiness and your fulfillment.
A lot of this is very general because once again, diversity is The Creator’s spice of life. So you get to explore.
I would recommend you do a little journaling after you listen to the podcast, and you fill in the details. You get to do that. You’re so awesome and you’re so powerful, so you get to fill in the details from the general information of this, so you know what your fulfillment and your happiness is. You know what that means for you. Right? But you’ve got to stop putting other people first and start living for yourself. Okay?
Start living for yourself, even you mothers and fathers. Yes, take good care of your children. Take excellent care of your children. But make sure that you’re also rejuvenating and fortifying yourself, even if it’s when they go to bed. Whenever it is, make sure that you pencil out time just for you.
I’m Athena Lucene, and I am a galactic beacon of expanded love and light consciousness. I came to this Earth planetary construct to guide you on your way back to universal oneness.
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That’s it for now. Abundant blessings and blissful moments.